But what you have done is to cleave ALL men unhappily married.
No, I merely used an inartful shorthand. As I said in my explanation, I do NOT believe that unhappiness within a specific marriage would lead a man who otherwise freely and happily chooses the married life to suddenly decide to practice homosexual pedophilic acts.
In other words, I am arguing that by choosing men who by their nature desire heterosexual sexual relationships, and also express that desire in a controlled manner by freely confining that desire in a marriage relationship, you can minimize the chance that your leaders are in fact homosexual, or desirous of extramarital relationships with children.
And yes, I am saying that “being married” isn’t enough to protect the leadership — the general biblical admonition suggests the quality of marriage and family life of those considered need to be judged.
But for my argument, I took it no further than to suggest that explicitly excluding from leadership those men who seek out marriage relationships would cut out men who were less likely to want homosexual pedophilic relationships, because men who are most likely to want heterosexual married relationships would be most likely to reject the vow of celibacy.