But I have to disagree with you that music is somehow not proper in the presence of Our Lord. You set up a false dichotomy, that on the one hand one has "real Catholics" who don't need anything but the Real Presence, and on the other hand "Non Catholics" who need their "praise and community". That is wrong, and insulting to the generations of Catholics for whom properly presented, reverent, appropriate music is the best offering they can bring to Our Lord.
Do try to live and let live. Some 'real Catholics' consider good music an important part of the Mass. 'Real Catholics' like Mr. Palestrina, Mr. Byrd, Mr. Victoria, etc. etc.
Are you saying that the Holy Mass is NOT about the Real Presence of Our Lord? That a Holy Mass is about what the humans bring? (And actually I never used “Real Catholics” that you put into quotes nor did I say that music isn’t proper).
Tell it to the soldiers who attended Holy Mass on the hood of a jeep, or our sister parish in Africa who attend Holy Mass under a tree. Is it about the music or the Real Presence of Our Lord?
Seriously, your background is music and it is very important to you. To those of us who have a very light music background or none (which is the majority of us), it’s not important. If ANY Catholic feels that music is needed for a proper Holy Mass or anything a human (other than the Priest) brings is important, that person’s focus is incorrect. Nothing a human brings beats the gift Our Lord is giving us.