I can understand the difficulty overcoming regret when past sins have hurt others. Seeking reconciliation would have to play a part. There are some good resources at:
http://www.peacemaker.net
I know I haven't arrived in this regard, but am thankful for a merciful God.
Interesting stuff. It seems to me unnatural that one would expect to escape regret for one’s sins.
I have to say, though, that these passages:
“Making yourself feel bad for what you do wrong is “self-made religion” because the pain we feel seems to justify our wrongdoing.”
“Condemning ourselves after we have done something wrong gives us a false sense of being “good” again.”
...describe something that is entirely foreign to my experience and contrary to common sense. How could regret for one’s sins make one feel “good again?”