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[Catholic Caucus] Mel's marriage is annulled ... by his own dad
Woman's Day (Australia) ^ | 8/3/2009

Posted on 08/04/2009 5:43:44 AM PDT by markomalley

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To: MEGoody
If one bothers to read the scriptures, it is quite rational. "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh."

Obviously, if one continues over and over to join his flesh with the woman to whom he is legally married, then he is, by his own behavior, validating the marriage. It's not as if he did an "oopsie" one time. So yes, having 7 children with the woman to whom you are legally married makes quite a bit of difference.

One is not legally married in the Catholic church unless the criteria of complete freedom in doing so, and the intent of procreation, has been satisfied when vows are made. Civil legality does nothing to validate vows. Since most Protestant denominations see divorce as acceptable, this conversation is already two-strikes in the hole.

81 posted on 08/05/2009 8:49:09 AM PDT by Rutles4Ever (Ubi Petrus, ibi ecclesia, et ubi ecclesia vita eterna!)
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To: MEGoody
I've yet to hear of a dissolution performed by the church that is biblical.

As though your hearsay could possibly qualify you to make that judgement!

The church rejects the idea that a marriage between baptized persons can be "dissolved," so you aren't going to hear of those at all.

The only question is whether a marriage ever existed at all.

There are plenty of cases where someone attempted remarriage after a civil divorce. If their first marriage was valid, their second marriage cannot possibly be valid if their (original) spouse is still alive.

Declaring the second (attempted) marriage invalid is perfectly Biblical; in fact, Christ's explicit words, related in three different gospels, require it.

83 posted on 08/05/2009 9:22:48 AM PDT by Campion ("President Barack Obama" is an anagram for "An Arab-backed Imposter")
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To: MEGoody

Like a good fundamentalist, you believe that a “shotgun” wedding must include, somewhere, a shotgun.

What’s unbiblical about “let your yes mean yes, and your no mean no”? How about “Thou shalt not lie” and “Thou shalt not bear false witness”? Is that biblical enough?


84 posted on 08/05/2009 9:23:58 AM PDT by Rutles4Ever (Ubi Petrus, ibi ecclesia, et ubi ecclesia vita eterna!)
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To: MEGoody

You wrote:

“Clearly, the scriptures indicate that one party expresses to the other party that they are marrying them, and then they join and become one flesh.”

Does that consent have to be voluntary? Christians say yes. What say you?

“That is marriage in the biblical sense. There are no caveats about “Well, I didn’t really want to marry her.” You did it, now you’re married.”

No. Marriage against your will is not valid. Consent must be freely given. You may not realize this, but you are saying forced marriage is just honky-dorry.

“Show me a biblical precedent for the claims you are trying to make. Just one example of God allowing the dissolution of a marriage because the guy felt “pressured” to marry because he was about to be a father. (Or for any other similar silly reason.)”

Not all truths are contained in scripture nor should anyone expect them to be. The making of a marriage must be voluntary.

“I won’t hold my breath, because there simply is no such biblical precedent.”

Freedom most certainly is a Biblical precedent. Without free consent, there is no valid marriage.


86 posted on 08/05/2009 9:43:15 AM PDT by vladimir998
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To: MEGoody; Campion
Can you provide a single example of a biblical dissolution? Just one? (I won't hold my breath waiting, as I'm almost certain you won't even try.)

I believe it goes like this: "What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder."

The key word here is "God" - obviously. Now. We're running into a semantical problem because your are saying that marriage is indissoluble. It is. There's no record of marriage dissolvement in the Bible because a marriage cannot be dissolved. However, according to Scripture, marriage is attended to and blessed by God.

That in mind, I would like you to explain where it states in the Bible that God will bless a lie, a falsehood, a sham ceremony that purports to be a marriage, but is based in deceit, ignorance, or duress (not custom, but duress). If you believe that God joins together and blesses those who are acting out a grand lie in a masquerade of sanctity, then your point is well taken. If you don't believe that He would do this - that He can't be fooled, and won't be made a mockery of - then how can you not believe that "marriages" based in defect are not really marriages, and therefore did not exist in the first place? Either God joins together or He does not. Either He blesses and joins a lie, or He does not. Take your pick.

87 posted on 08/05/2009 9:46:40 AM PDT by Rutles4Ever (Ubi Petrus, ibi ecclesia, et ubi ecclesia vita eterna!)
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To: Rutles4Ever
Psychological immaturity is, from what I understand, a big factor in annulments.

The grounds for granting annulments you have been citing have been around for a long time and no one disputes they invalidate a marriage.

The most recent increase in annulments are frequently based as you indicated on "Psychological immaturity" and herein is where the problem lies. This was a well intentioned attempt to approach a serious problem but in practice it causes more problems than it solves. Thus there has been a backlash from Rome against the US where the vast majority of "Psychological immaturity" cases originate. The same set of circumstances can result in an annulment in one diocese and a refusal in another. Thus which is it - is such a marriage valid or not valid. If it depends on the decision of the local tribunal (which may or may not be influenced by money or personalities) then it is by tribunal decision not the words of Christ.

Why not be more honest, which the Church has the right to be, and simply declare that a once valid marriage is now dead and grant a divorce (like the Greeks do). The call is for honesty, not anything other than simple pastoral honesty.

90 posted on 08/05/2009 11:21:17 AM PDT by VidMihi ("In fide, unitas; in dubiis, libertas; in omnibus, caritas.")
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To: MEGoody

You wrote:

“Yes. Do you have any real life example of someone who involuntarily was forced into marriage (i.e. by having a gun held to their head).”

Yes. I know of a case, resolved in California in which those were excatly the circumstances. The “marriage” took place in Mexico. The woman believed that she was genuinely married even though she had a gun to her head (her back actually if I remember correctly) and only years later was she disabused of that belief after fleeing to the US and talking to a canon lawyer. I got this straight from the canon lawyer and he would never lie to me and said the woman was clearly not lying to him because she really thought she had been married even though it was against her will and without her free consent.

“Again, provide one real example of where this has occurred.”

Done.

“Of course. But anyone who claims a ‘truth’ that contradicts what God has said in scripture is not telling the truth.”

Nothing I said has HAS EVER contradicted scripture. Your interpretation is your own. I can contradict that all day long and not contradict scripture once.


92 posted on 08/05/2009 11:37:27 AM PDT by vladimir998
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To: MEGoody

Spouse A says to Spouse B, “I plan on having children with you”. After marrying, Spouse A says to Spouse B, “I will only have sex with you as long as we use contraception.”

FAIL.


93 posted on 08/05/2009 1:17:51 PM PDT by Rutles4Ever (Ubi Petrus, ibi ecclesia, et ubi ecclesia vita eterna!)
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To: VidMihi

Regardless of your reasoning, a valid marriage never dies. The marriage only dissolves at the death of a spouse.

Honesty dictates that a marriage that didn’t exist in the first place is no marriage at all, i.e., null and void.


94 posted on 08/05/2009 1:21:07 PM PDT by Rutles4Ever (Ubi Petrus, ibi ecclesia, et ubi ecclesia vita eterna!)
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To: MEGoody
An adult who enter into a marriage, unless a gun is being held to their heads, cannot (especially after years of living as a married person) claim they were under duress.

Of course they can. Imagine a family in which the parentage demands that their resistant son/daughter marry into Family B or be disowned from their inheritance and contact with other family members. The proceeding marriage is not valid, REGARDLESS of anything that occurs afterward - children, prosperity, etc.

95 posted on 08/05/2009 1:26:21 PM PDT by Rutles4Ever (Ubi Petrus, ibi ecclesia, et ubi ecclesia vita eterna!)
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To: topcat54
No the devil didn't make him do anything, he made his own choices.
97 posted on 08/05/2009 2:13:07 PM PDT by mware (F-R-E-E, that spells free. Free Republic.com baby.)
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To: marshmallow
Mel has the demons working on him overtime.

He opened the door wide for them. For him to make public that Robyn was pregnant and he felt pressured to marry her -- just so he could scrape up an annulment -- is so low and filthy it's almost beyond belief.

This line from the Bible comes to mind: "God is not mocked."


98 posted on 08/05/2009 2:28:43 PM PDT by Cinnamontea
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To: topcat54
"The devil made me do it." - Flip Wilson

"......and lead us not into temptation." - Jesus Christ.

99 posted on 08/05/2009 2:35:39 PM PDT by marshmallow ("A country which kills its own children has no future" -Mother Teresa of Calcutta)
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