[AnAmericanMother]

That's what I meant -- it's obviously not a Catholic service, so it's o.k. to dance I guess.

I woulda saved it for the reception, but we were Piskies when we got married (in a very prim and proper cathedral. The Dean would have had kittens if we had done anything like this -- not because of the presence of the Eucharist, but just because That Sort of Thing is Not Done.)

[AnAmericanMother]

And I just remembered (but it's BEEN 32 years, o.k.?) that at the time the Episcopal Cathedral had an absolute ban on any non-sacred music being used for a marriage ceremony. I mean, absolute. Like you not only couldn't get away with a popular dance song like "Forever", you couldn't even get away with semi-sacred stuff like the mushy solos that are often warbled by bad sopranos at weddings ("The Voice that Breathed O'er Eden" or "Because" or (I kid you not)"I'd Rather Have Jesus").

We conspired with the organist to have a suite of 14th century dances for the incidental music because, as he put it, in those days there weren't any clear lines between the sacred and secular. Besides, the Dean was particularly unmusical and unliterary (although he was a faithful Christian and though retired for years stood up on the side of the orthodox in the recent controversy), and wouldn't have noticed.