I suspect we’re largely in agreement on this issue. I have no objections to someone asking Mary to intercede for them. My Baptist church meets on Wednesday specifically to pray for the church and each other.
I only object if someone asks Mary to grant their prayers, which is also wrong in Catholic theology, I believe.
You and I are in full agreement.
But you have to understand that when Catholics talk about praying to Mary, we say it from the POV of the Catechism, which is an intersession POV.
It is the intent of the petitioner. Others look at it and see it from their POV, i.e. praying to Mary as a god.
So assigning intent is really not correct. We don’t do that.