You know better than to maen this! I pray!
It seems to me that dialog, rather than yelling at each other, requires the ability and willingness to stipulate, for the sake of understanding the argument, the the other guy might be right. I am grateful that I can present an example of "irresistible grace" which explains, maybe even better than some Protestants can explain it, how their doctrine is not necessarily like God turning the saved into little robots.