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I will be putting up a moderated forum on the topic of S-E within 10 or so days. I'm going to be gathering anecdotes from people who have been targeted by people claiming to be presenting the Gospel of Christ, especially those who explicitly or implicitly say that they are being intentionally cruel for the sake of our souls, and trying to classify and organize them and then I'm going to run the observations by some pros I know.

Then I suggest you post your thread about your self-titled term, S-E ("sado-evangelism") in Chat, because it certainly doesn't belong on the Religion Forum.

Time-off is for letting go and putting aside, MD. Holding on to resentments and anger isn't healthy or productive.

Mass on Monday, before the service I was talking with a brother, who is doing advanced degree work in Patristics. I mentioned the new "diagnosis" of "Sado-Evangelism" to him, and he just shook his head, and then laughed ruefully. Why do you suppose he reacted like that?

Since you're asking for an opinion, then I think your friend was probably thinking you were being awfully defensive about something and that your attempted humor in coining the term "sado-evangelism" was pretty sick, and that finally you'd be much better off "letting go" and doing as Peter instructed us...

"But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear." -- 1 Peter 3:15

Or perhaps your friend was thinking of Paul's advice...

"We then, as workers together with him, beseech you also that ye receive not the grace of God in vain.
(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)" -- 2 Corinthians 6:1-2

Holding on to resentments and anger isn't healthy or productive.

Indeed. And it is not God's will for us.

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. - Ephesians 4:31-32

It also backfires

Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven: - Luke 6:37

And it shuts off our prayers.

And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. - Matthew 6:12-15

And again:

Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive [them], and ye shall have [them].

And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses. - Mark 11:24-26

Time-off is for letting go and putting aside, MD. Holding on to resentments and anger isn't healthy or productive.

Neither is enabling.

I have noticed outside this forum that the abusers are often advising their victims that it's not good to cling to the past. It's essentially an attempt to enlist their targets in the PD sufferer's denial. That's one way PD's strike me as similar to chemical dependency. Then I suggest you post your thread about your self-titled term, S-E ("sado-evangelism") in Chat, because it certainly doesn't belong on the Religion Forum.

Those who take the trouble to discover the meaning of the opinion or statement with which they want to disagree BEFORE they disagree, will already know that the moderated forum will not be on FR.

... then I think your friend was probably thinking you were being awfully defensive about something and that your attempted humor in coining the term "sado-evangelism" was pretty sick, and that finally you'd be much better off "letting go" and doing as Peter instructed us...
"But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear." -- 1 Peter 3:15

Actualkly, what he did was tell me some stories of his victimization by S-E types. And as for the Peter excerpt, when I see some discernible meekness, you can be sure I will respond in kind. Haven't seen much yet.

Then I suggest you post your thread about your self-titled term, S-E ("sado-evangelism") in Chat, because it certainly doesn't belong on the Religion Forum.

That's a good suggestion. Regardless of where he decides to post his idea though, I think it will be understood in the same manner as the term 'homophobic' is understood.

The pro-homosexual people take refuge in their made up term, because they think that their new term convicts those that disagree with them of some kind of disorder or crime. For me, when someone brings up the term 'homophobic' it provides an opportunity to discuss what homosexuality really is, it's dangers, and what God thinks of it.

I believe that same will be true with MD's made up term. It will provide more opportunities to discuss what the Bible really says. I'm reminded of what Joseph told his brothers...

Gen 50:19,20 And Joseph said unto them, Fear not: for [am] I in the place of God? But as for you, ye thought evil against me; [but] God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as [it is] this day, to save much people alive.

All things for the glory of God and the proclamation of His Word.