If a Muslim doesn't care that you think it's wrong for him to explode himself and twenty other people, does that make you wrong?
You wanted a rational argument, please put aside your emotions and address it logically.
Logically, your premises have no connection to each other or to your conclusion. You did not construct a syllogism.
I do not want to be hurt.
I am equal to others.
Therefore I should not steal.
I do not want to be hurt.
Stealing hurts others.
Therefore I should not steal.
(still doesn’t work even connecting the two premises)
I do not want to be hurt.
I hurt others who are my equals if I steal.
Therefore I should not steal.
(still doesn’t work . . . why not! The connecting premise is “I should not hurt others who are my equal” but that is the conclusion you are trying to prove . . . it is circular).
The premises individually don’t lead to the conclusion of altruism either: Because I do not want to be hurt I should not steal from others even when I can get away from it. Because I am equal to others I should not steal from others even when I can get away with it.