I saw on Bettnet an adoptive mom compare the fascination of some couples with having a biological child with looking for a pedigreed dog. I'd never thought of it that way before, and was about to post my agreement when Bettinelli's wife called the post cruel so I backed off.
Back in the day it used to be acceptable to wonder why a Catholic infertile couple didn't adopt, but more recently it's become insulting, or at least insensitive.
oops. Meant to add that there is no difference in my feelings for my children, whether they are biological or adopted.
Having said that, we chose to skip all medical interventions and proceed directly to adoption. We decided that we wanted children. Period. The pregnancy turned out not to be so important to us. Thank God for all that, because the children I have mean the world to me.