>>She said “we are supposed to do this”.<<
I had a talk with a lady at a party about the Orans. She said the same thing.
Funny how one gets a really puzzled look when you whip out those directions from the Vatican!
exactly! Usually its the "but VAtican II said...." crowd that gets into a temper tantraum when you argue with them. When I went through RCIA a few years ago at my parish, one woman who helped from time to time used to get very angry when I would bring up abuses as though I was a heretic.