Chastity ... in fact, we are called to chastity whether we are married or not.
The virtue of chastity is the proper governing of our sexual appetites, based on our state in life. For a married person, then, chastity consists in preserving oneself for one’s spouse both in thought and in action.
Matthew 5:28 “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
Incidentally, I believe should not even look upon our spouses with “lust”. Lust is all about taking. Rather, we should look upon them with “love”, which is all about giving. Physically, the result may well be more or less the same ;’} ... but spiritually ... lust degrades, love ennobles.
The virtue of chastity is the proper governing of our sexual appetites, based on our state in life. For a married person, then, chastity consists in preserving oneself for one’s spouse both in thought and in action.
Matthew 5:28 “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
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Best practical advice I ever got on this was from a single preacher: “Look but don’t land.”