I had a conversation with someone recently who had been contemplating suicide. So far, she had not gone through with it because of love for her family and knowledge of God's command to not kill. I asked her to love herself and to be grateful to God that not only did he give her the gift of life but also the gift of eternal life. Since he chose her from all eternity, she should live her life as a precious piece of artwork. A unique, one-of-a-kind vessel created by God, indwelt by the Holy Spirit.
I could see by the expression on her face that she had not considered herself to be so blessed. She understood the law but not grace.
My cousin was very depressed six months ago from enormous pressures at work and from the responsibility of two aging and sickly parents. I told her to hang on and that God would show her His predestining love for her by eventually leading her out of her anxiety and fears. God's plan is often difficult to see, but it's there, nonetheless.
Slowly but surely, she has changed jobs, moved to a new house and her parents' health has greatly improved.
At any given moment, it's not so easy to see God's predestination of all things, but looking back over these past six months, she's seen how God has completely altered her life for the better.
She made the changes, but it was God's will that this occur.
May God give your friend eyes to see all the goodness He plans for her.