The thing that you’re missing appears to be that you think that God has abrogated His authority. He has not. He has set up the rules and we must play by them for our eternal rewards.
If He wanted an army of robot slaves, then He can obviously make them. But if He wants human to love Him, then that must be of their own free will. Can robot slaves love?
I notice you give little Scriptural support for your positions. We cannot earn our salvation. We cannot merit God's grace. It is freely given according to His good pleasure alone.
Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;) And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus: That in the ages to come he might shew the exceeding riches of his grace in his kindness toward us through Christ Jesus. For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them." -- Ephesians 2:4-10"But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us,
That's Hallmark, not Scripture. Is fallen man capable of loving God? What does the Bible say?