Posted on 07/09/2007 9:01:04 AM PDT by Between the Lines
My wife has bought into this women need to work thing. I make more than enough to support the family but she feels the need to work to show her worth. It causes big fights when I bring up that the ones that suffer are the kids and my house looks like crap. Her being a practicing psychologist who specializes in major mental disorders but has had training in family counseling I find it paradoxical that she cannot see some of the issues that arise from non-nuclear families. What do I know I am only a layman ( with a technical Master’s degree ) I am told.
So I get to plug along and make sure I take off work when the kids have a function to get to so she can work to be able to buy more junk.
This is going to raise the hackles on all the feminazis.
It raises the hackles on me. Seems like a way to make money off of women. A degree in homemaking? Why on Earth does anyone need a college education for that?
A woman should know that sort of thing before college. I got my degree in computer science. It makes money until I’m ready to be a stay-at-home mom. No need to study at a university for that.
I think women who want to be stay-at-home mothers should learn something they can use to provide for themselves in a pinch. Get Mom or the mother-in-law or some nice older lady from church teach how to bake pies, spend the tuition money on an accounting degree or another way to feed the kids if the husband gets run over.
And homemaking skills are not really being passed on from mother to daughter the way they used to be - in much the same way that construction and repair skills are not being passed along from father to son.
Thank God I’m not a pastor’s wife. Even the term “pastor’s wife” is degrading, like she has no identity apart from him.
Maybe your wife has dreams to pursue and talents to use, just like (gasp) a man?
I could see having a course, but an entire major? Sounds like a Christian Women’s Studies major to me- with the same amount of usefulness to employers after college.
And Computer Science can lead to a viable work-at-home contracting position. Even if I go home and never “work” again, my degree is paid for, unlike (I would think) many of these “Homemaking Majors”. And I do have the potential to earn extra money later.
I got my BS/CS in 2004 too. Love the stuff.
A certificate program or a 2 year Associate of arts program would be much more reasonable!
She chose this path after kids were born and after saying she would wait until kids are in late teens. She said after the 2nd baby, “I am too bored just playing mom.” So she went back to grad school.
I doubt the thought of her talents came into play. Albeit she is very good at what she does it was an after thought and breech of promise because she was bored.
It is sad that you too feel this is okay behavior inside a two-parent family where the man makes a good living, no wonder our country is on a downhill path in respects to family morals and culture.
A lot of Baby boomer mommies never spent the time teaching their children how to keep a house in running order. They spent their time teaching their daughters that they have to go to college, get a degree and work for a living just the same way as their sons. So many women have to learn these things on their own, hire someone to do it for them or decide they don't care if their house is clean.
I think it is an over-stretch to offer a Bachelor in this discipline.
Personally I think that everyone should know these things, but it isn't being passed on anymore. In our neighborhood of 50 homes there is only one other family that knows how to actually cook (not just opening a can or from a box) and most are boomers.
All three of our children were raised knowing how to cook, clean, sew and do the laundry. Yes, even my son. They might not have appreciated it then, but now that they are adults they see it through a different light.
Small wonder - you're strong point certainly isn't diplomacy.
It was the same when I was younger. I learned how to cook & clean, use all sorts of power tools, change the oil on a car, and even (gasp!) sew! Somebody had to attach the patches to my Boy Scout uniform and mend holes in the knees of my pants -- after showing me how once or twice, my mom said I was on my own for that kind of stuff.
Resumed my career when the kids entered school, but I still did the cleaning and cooking thing. Last year I was forced into an early retirement and at the same time my daughter and her husband had decided that she needed to work. He works full time and is going to collage to be a pharmacist. So, we decided that I would take care of my three granddaughters. Now I am a stay at home Paw Paw and loving every minute of it. The wife still works and hates it. ; )
Oh, absolutely men should learn the same skills. I was just referring to women who desire to be homemakers. If they are motivated enough to take college classes, they are motivated enough to find a “professional homemaker” and apprentice themselves.
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