Earthly joy is not heavenly, but what's the point. Your examnples are here and now. Who will convince Narcis that self-love is no love? That's why we are not in the same church. 'Nuff said.
I strongly disagree.
A number of those Scriptures applied to believers to all times.
And you seem to trash part of the Scripture:
Love your neighbor AS YOURSELF.
As well as Paul's about a person loving his own body.
I can't imagine how sloppy rubber dictionary definitions are a help theologically . . . oh, right, except for folks who like rubber Bibles.
So, do you REALLY THINK that God's joys for His kids here are going to be greater than the joys in Heaven/eternity even though Scripture plainly indicates that the pleasures, joys, etc. in eternity are beyond our imagination??? Puzzling perspective.
BTW, some would wager that "personality" is a fiercely provocative thing to you . . . virtually a brittle, sensitive thing to you. If that's so and I'm missing something, I'm happy to be enlightened. Not trying to step on sore toes.
I just happen to feel that Father has given me an insight on it with great fierceness and intensity and that I dare not be silent about it.