[steadfastconservative]

What an interesting theory since it is usually the man who pressures the woman into sex. Is this how men "exercise" their so-called headship? You make it sound as though women can't control themselves without men around to help them. You've got this backwards, buddy.

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

I think we agree, at least in part. The problem is, as you say, that unrighteous males do pressure women. Women are spoken of scripturally as 'weaker vessels' and men are to protect and defend them.

Headship includes protection from harm and also has a self-sacrificing aspect, the Shepherd willing to die for the flock and the man willing to die to protect the woman. That kind of man gains a woman's love and respect and she gladly submits to (follows and supports) his non-bullying leadership.

Vastly different from the bullying, coarse wife-beating rogue that is all too real in many women's lives.

[Mrs. Don-o]

My darling husband is a very private fellow and doesn't like to "reveal all" in public, and I respect that. But let me say this: when we were engaged (this was -- let's see, our older son is 17 --- that makes it 18 years ago) we wished to protect the purity of our courtship, which was a little hard because I was so dern rambunctious. A limerick from that era:

There once was a woman who truly
Intended, both rightly and duly
To be lawfully wedded
And thereafter, bedded
But quick! Or she might get unruly.

I explicitly asked for, and relied upon, my sweetie's always-affectionate chivalry to keep us chaste all the way to "I do."

And then, we did.

Man, do I love him for that.