I understand you to say that it is remarkable that communications to Mary would be assisted by the Lord. I'm saying EVERY communication at all times is assisted by the Lord, and no communication would ever happen without him.
If that is not scriptural, then I am not scriptural. But you sound like a deist here - God wound up the communication mechanism and turned it loose? - and I know that's not true, that you're not a Deist.
So then you make the equivalence that if we say God enables communication with Mary then we are making God Mary's secretary.
And rather than dispute that, I run with it. (Would it be better if I said volunteer secretary, or if you had?)
I took the equivalence that you made So, you pray to Mary and Jesus is her secretary relaying the message to her?, that is,if God helps, He must be in a servant role, and ran it out. You added the element of compulsion to what we were saying. It seems to me that if you reject what I say then you have to reject the argument that we are making Jesus Mary's secretary.
Then you say, Pardon me if that conjures up images of Jesus looking to Mary "Hey, Mom. Mad Dawg is talking to you."
Would it be okay or at least pardonable if I characterized the Calvinist view as God as a puppet master controlling everything for his amusement, saving some puppets but throwing others into fire, like a spoiled emperor pulling the wings off of flies, or a Spartan killing a Helot just for the, uh, Helot of it? It wouldn't be okay with ME if I did that.
And again, you all think that God is in time and changeable. We don't. He serves. He has always served. That's what Sovereigns do. Tyrants dominate. That's why people hate tyrants and love their good kings. They don't serve out of compulsion, but out of wisdom and love.
As to the rest, we take seriously the saying:
Αγαπητοι, νυν τεκνα θεου εσμεν, και ουπω εφανερωθη τι εσομεθα. οιδαμεν οτι εαν φανερωυη ομοιοι αθτω εσομεθα, οτι οψομεθα καθωσ εστιν.And, come to think of it, "..greater things than these ..."
we shall be like Him (I John 3:2)
We take the promises very seriously indeed, and rejoice in them.