Give it a try anyway.
It really looks like you're trying very hard define something as a choice where there is no choice possible. For you or for the elect.
God is the only one who chooses in this part, right?
If Scripture says nobody CAN come unless the Father draws them and if Scripture says that all whom the Father gives to Christ will come to Christ and will not be cast out - the impetus is all on God in our salvation.
By the same token, God does not cause others to go to Hell. He puts up with evil for a time and then will destroy evil and make all things new.
Man is responsible and without excuse (Romans 1); He is willfully bound by sin. He will not come unless the Father draws Him (in spite of nobody holding Him back) and all whom the Father draws will come to Him and He will not cast any of them out.
Man chooses evil and is damned. He isn't free in the way that you mean as unfettered. He is bound, willingly, with sin. The truth is around him. He knows the truth and turns from God.
Others choose God after He makes them alive (instead of dead in trespasses and sins), gives them faith, and draws them to Himself.
One goes to Hell because it's his desire. The other goes to heaven because they have truly been made free and given a new desire oriented towards God.