There are some mysteries vis a vis God loving everyone and not willing that any should perish but that all should come to at least the knowledge of the Truth (I Tim 2:1-5)
This just shows that God wants everyone to have a choice.
vs hating those who do violence, liars etc
He loves even the wicked; He hates their lies and their violence.
Much agree with you about God wanting us to have A CHOICE.
There is
NO FREEDOM WITHOUT RESPONSIBILITY
AND
THERE IS NO RESPONSIBILITY WITHOUT AUTHENTIC FREEDOM TO CHOOSE.