I can see why the Portestants go into electrict-shock spasms."
Kosta, that's nothing compared to "Most Holy Theotokos save us!" Truth be told, I think those paroxysms of rage are kind of funny. But as I have said before, Marian devotion simply isn't for Protestants.
"In my church there are a few people who actually do touch the ground when her name is mentioned! When I asked them where did they get that from the answer was "we feel we need to give her more than just [sic] a sign of the cross."
More than a sign of the cross?"
The Church needs to regulate it. Leaving it up to individual devotees leads to worship-like behavior. The main reason the Divine Liturgy was regulated was the fact that everybody was adding and composing their own set of prayers. Some were kneeling, some were standing, etc.
As you know, the Church found it necessary to prohibit kneeling on Sundays and especially 40 days after the Pentecost, and institutded fixed prayers for the Divine Liturgy. As you know, that is being observed as much as women being covered in church (at least in America).
The people in my church who prostrate for the Theotokos (because they feel they "need" to give her a more than 'cursory' [?] sign of the cross) do not prostrate when the Holy Trinity is invoked. Apparently they feel the Theotokos 'deserves' more than the Holy Trinity! It's absurd! It's blasphemous, and idolatrous!
We tend to excuse such idolatry as "personal devotion." But people are copycats. Others are nubies and do what they see others do. The third and largest group is ignorant of the scripture and history and figure that if the priest doesn't mention something to the contrary it's okay!
The problem is — the priest is facing the altar and never sees what the congregation does! And even if they see it, they may not say anything (because we always want more parishoners, not fewer).
I never did accept or condone asking the Theotokos to save us. I never believed she can save us. I never believed she wants us to believe that she can save us.
Your refrence to the "Most Holy Theotokos, save us" is from the Supplicatory Canon to the Most holy Theotokos and Akathist Canon which seem, to put it midly, idolatorus. (These are not commonly recited prayers, but used during Great Lent when most people are not present). They are not liturgical. The Divine Liturgy makes no such statement.
It's one thing to love her, honor her, even magnify her. It's an altogether another thing to pray to her to save us, to infer that she has the opower to cleanse us of our sins, to bow to her (as some people do in my church), or to say Glory to thee (+Basil's Divine Liturgy).
There is no theological or biblical evidence that saints do pray for us; it is an assumption (even the Church will tell you) that they would, for as we pray for others and all, so would they because we consider them to be (spiritually) alive.
To me, Marian devotion can be summarized with one word: deepest gratitude. Everything else is idolatry.