When in doubt, ask the Holy Spirit, not some church who might not have the right answer to begin with.
Mary, that is precisely (from my POV) what I mean. I read the diversities of gifts passage along with Christ's promise to the Church to mean exactly that sometimes I should ask other people in the Church who have Spiritual gifts I don't have. I understand God to have promised gifts to the Apostles and to their successors.
Your opinion seems to be that you don't need to look for somebody who has a gift you don't have but can ask God to give you the theological discernment you want without any of that pesky obedience stuff.
I'm ont saying right or wrong, (it's clear which side I'm on, though, I'm not pretending it isn't) I just don't see how what you say squares with Paul.
When in doubt, ask the Church, the Holy Scripture teaches:
if he will not hear them: tell the church. And if he will not hear the church, let him be to thee as the heathen and publican. (Mt 18:17)
Amen.
And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints; And for me, that utterance may be given unto me, that I may open my mouth boldly, to make known the mystery of the gospel, For which I am an ambassador in bonds: that therein I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak." -- Ephesians 6:16-20"Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.