But, dear lady, He did actually command women to do so (through +Paul). I gather that you base all your beliefs on the Bible. Are not +Paul's words the words of God to you?
In the Apostolic Churches (Catholic/Orthodox) the fault is with the hierarchy, for they are the shepards who need to enforce what the Scripture says. But they don't for fear that many will leave and join Protestant groups. So modernism is tolerated if not encouraged.
I don't think God really cares that much because He's more concerned with the condition of our heart than a legalistic covering of our heads
It's not legalistic. It's Scriptural. After all, God is the Law, so are we now going to accuse God of being "legalistic?"
No, but some of these folks here are. There are certain things written in the Bible that were for the day in which they were written, not now. It's hard to figure out sometimes which is which but I maintain that God is much more interested in my heart attitude than in my hat.