But this REALLY isn't God making any sort of choice at all, is it? Rather, this is God being a rubber-stamp yes-man to the power of men to dictate to God who will be saved. Here, God just signs the bill of lading for goods received. If He graces all equally, then He makes no choices, only men do. God just makes the delivery to Heaven. We believe that God has much greater power than this, and is strong enough in will to make independent choices for Himself. We don't believe in a God who passes the buck.
Not any more than saying He allows evil.
Yes He does. After we die. Based on our deeds. God pardons all because He is not partial. That free every human to be saved. Christ died not only for the Jews but for the Gentiles as well. What determines our ultimate fate is how Christ-like we are at the moment of our death. Those who die in the likeness of God will be with God.