What do you 'owe' your children, FK? You feed them, clothe them, provide for them...you'd think it immoral to feed only one and neglect the other(s) because, before they were even conceived, you decided that some will be cared for and others will be neglected.
God instilled in me the love I have for my children. He also commanded me to provide for their needs and teach them in the ways of the Lord. So I try to do that. He did not instill in me the same responsibility for all the children of the world. Neither does God have responsibility to save all people in the world. He only does to His children, the elect.
If all people are God's children, then you would have God standing at the street corner, watching billions of His beloved children walk right passed Him, fail to look both ways, and step right out in front of a bus. That isn't love to me. God would never pull His children back to the curb. No, no, no. God respects the idiocy of His children way too much for that. Well, I have no such respect for the idiocy of my children. I HAVE pulled them back. It sounds like under your system, God only really loves the smart ones.