But you've neglected to mention the list of things that you do along with this "in our heart" bit. You DO sing and make melody in your heart, in a building, while wearing clothes, with artificial climate control, in harmony, in a mixed-gender setting, along with your children, on Sunday morning or Wednesday evening...
But that's rather beside the point. You'll never concede, because you find the very idea threatening. Very well, I don't mean to make you feel threatened.
If you really believe that somehow Christ's death and resurrection made God quit liking the music of the harp and the lyre, the timbrel, the horns, and the drums, and that these are now forbidden for worship...well, far be it from me to try to change your mind on that point. I don't mind praying for the Lord to deliver us each from our ignorance, however. =]