I mean this in utmost Christian charity: Would you just give up and become Catholic already?! I can't tell you how painful it is to watch the Anglican Communion rot away.
The modern day Episcopal Church, USA, offers all of the liturgy and none of the morality of Catholicism.
Best decision we ever made. Now my interest in this controversy is mostly academic (though laced with a tiny bit of nostalgia of an ugly kind . . . :-( )
The Anglican Communion is not rotting away. Liberals have slowly but surely taken over the leadership positions in the Episcopal Church, in much the same way they have taken over most of the administrative and teaching positions in the univerities and colleges in America. The two phenomena are related.
The Episcopal Church is not the entire Anglican Communion, but only a small part of it. The Anglican Communion will survive. The Episcopal Church will simply splinter off. Those in the Episcopal Church who wish to continue being Anglicans will find some other way to remain a part of the Anglican Communion.
As for pain, you don't have to go looking for it. Life brings it in many forms. But pain doesn't define what is most important about living. And it won't define what is most important about the Anglican Communion.