Well, I wouldn't consider it abuse and I'm not a man. I just don't see the big upset over what people do behind closed doors. If they're a good person in the community, then what does it really matter?
First of all, quoting Kinsey statistics gets you nowhere with me. Kinsey was a pervese nut case who stooped so low as to sexually assualt infants in the name of "scientific study" & has been thoroughly discredited for manufacturing out of whole cloth most of his "findings." In fact, it was Kinsey who perpetrated the lie that homosexuals make up 10% of the population - a grossly inflated statistic that has been totally debunked by numerous reputable studies over the past 20 years - but continues to be repeated as if it were true.
Secondly, do you even KNOW what sodomy is? I suspect you do not, considering the fact that you quote Kinsey's bogus "statistics" on oral sex alone. We're not talking about the archaic "legal" definition of sodomy covering every sexual act other than the "missionary style" of copulation. In the present context, sodomy is anal penetration with a penis or other foriegn object. If you're not familiar with a common form of sodomy in homosexual males called "fisting," look it up. I suggest, however, that you refrain from eating anything for several hours before doing that. While you're at it, perhaps you can find some reports from hospital emergency rooms that will educate you about some of the painful & dangerous foreign objects these doctors have had to remove from the rectums of homosexuals - put there voluntarily or involuntarily.
Now, when you get all done with that research, do take the time to let me know if you still think that MOST heterosexuals engage in sodomy & that MOST women would not consider anal sex as abusive.
Sheesh! Now I gotta go take a shower. Just writing about it makes me feel like I've layed down in the mud with swine.