Maybe I'm confused, but it seems like that's what you're saying here. You seem to accept that men should be the initiators, but then you place the burden on women to be approachable and open about what they want.
Well, yes... if a woman wants to be approached by a man whom she likes, she should be approachable.
But I'm certainly not calling anyone who acts approachable a hussy! Quite the opposite, I assured that she will not be considered a hussy.