While there is always more to narratives such as this than meets the eye, I couldn't agree more with the basic premise. Withholding oneself from her/his lawfully wedded spouse is an egregious act that is the flip-side of adultery - an equal form of infidelity. Two wrongs never make a right but you are certainly correct in your assertion that while adulterous actions get all the attention, it seems that the actions that lead up to causing the adulterous actions get off the hook. Such should not be the case and those who preach from the pulpit should be as evenhanded as God's word is on the subject. People often don't like to use the words responsibility and duty when it comes to sex within marriage but in fact if it is a responsibility and duty for a spouse to remain faithful (as scripture clearly shows), it is an equal responsibility and duty for each to make sure that there is more than sufficient sex to make sure the other is not tempted to stray.
A very keen observation, Asfaras....
How easy life would be if we always had our spouse's best interest on our hearts...I can't help but think that everything would fall nicely into place, as it should.
Agreed?