I'm one of the rare ones whose body started changing. I'm 48, a biological father of a wonderful little son, now nearly 5, but my medical records now show me as female because no male can have the blood chemistry I have, and I look just like any other middle-aged woman to anyone except a gynacologist.
Regardless of your problems, you are obviously a heterosexual male or you wouldn't be the biological father of a son.
I have no problem making an exception for those who are confused because of some of the conditions such as you describe. It is an error, however, to redefine normal becasue of extremely rare aberrations. Sin is a disease of the heart that manifests itself in actions. To drudge up rare medical disorders as an excuse for much more common sins of the heart is to block the soul from the one true answer that can heal. They need to grieve over their sins and repent. They need to accept full responsibility for their actions and wrong desires. That's tough when everyone is telling them it's not their fault.
My niece would have laughed at the notion that her homsexual behavior was driven by a "condition" or "state" of being. It was entirely a social thing for her -- a choice. Like many other wrong behaviors she participated in, it started with a deviant social group. The sin was 100% her fault, not theirs, but that was the driving force that started it all. That plus a spirit of rebellion and the lack of a strong conscience or moral character. She freely said she didn't like sex much with men or women -- and she would know because she had plenty of both. She knew it wasn't about a problem with disordered sexual desire. But she didn't accept that it was a sin, either. Her problem was 100% spiritual. Strapping her with nonsense therapy where she was told it wasn't her fault would have hindered her, not helped.
If you want to say I over generalized then I will accept the charge, though I think the generalization is highly accurate. (I would say all kittens have two eyes even though one was recently born with three eyes.) There are rarities that leave a person understandably confused. But you are doing something worse than I did. You are generalizing in reverse -- applying extremely rare cases to the majority, and denying the proper treatment for the clear diagnosis of a sinful heart, just to make yourself feel better. Let them get the help they need. And let God shape your character through your adversities.