"I got a little soured when the priest told me I should still stay married to the man who physically abused me, had affairs, demanded I use no birth control and give any children produced up for adoption."
You were talking to the wrong priest.
It should have been (and still could be) easy for you to obtain an annulment based on what you have shared about this man.
"Meanwhile the church is full of homosexuality and pedophilia... I'm not impressed."
Well...parts of the Church are...the homosexuality that is.
Pedophilia actually is not rampant - most of the abuse cases were comitted by ephebophiles (men attracted to teenage boys).It's a well known fact that the MSM doesn't want to admit to.
The Church leadership has been addressing the homosexuality problem and is now doing a review of seminaries to see what can be practically done.
Problems like this take time unfortunately.
"most of the abuse cases were comitted by ephebophiles (men attracted to teenage boys)."
That may be true, but it's also possible that female victims and pre-pub children's cases are underreported. Teen boys tend to put up a fight when they feel violated.
http://www.snapnetwork.org/female_victims/women_face_stigma.htm
http://www.snapnetwork.org/female_victims/female_victims_index.htm