Give 10% to a well-known Christian relief agency, or to a good mission fund. Whatever you think is the best use of the Lord's money. I give to my church, but I'm not beaten up about it, and I feel it's the easiest, best way to get the Lord's work done.
I wouldn't give just because I felt browbeaten to do so. If that were happening, I'd look for another church that isn't an obvious pad-the-pastor shakedown.
My wife and I support children in other countries. The widows and the fatherless are first with us. That was what the weekly collection was for. The quote out of Corinthians about the collection at the first of the week it was for the Christians in Jerusalem that were enduring a famine it was food that was being collected. Paul actually told some he didn’t want their money you don’t hear many today saying that.