Yes. Both those things happened. The LDS church of today is a far different body that it was back in the 1800s. There were lots of things going on in the 19th century that lots of people should be ashamed of. I can think of a whole bunch of them, and I'll bet you can, too.
This is the 21st century.
If you do not learn from history, you are doomed to repeat it.
The "this is the 21st century" argument is quite lame. A student of history well knows that feuds over perceived and real slights in the past often go for centuries.