It is interesting that the Catholics and Orthodox make such a deep comparison of Eve and Mary. Never in the Bible is this comparison made. On the contrary, Paul compares Adam and Christ-not Eve and Mary.
"I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing." John 15:5
God killed people all the time in scripture. He flooded the world, rained fire on Sodom, drowned the Egyptian army, ordered Joshua to slaughter the inhabitants of the Promise Land, and on and on and on. This is God's wrath on us miserable creatures who cannot even remotely understand God's glory unless, through His grace, He takes and sets us in the right direction.
The early church fathers sought to harmonize the scriptures, not ignore them. The question becomes how much are you dedicated to understanding God's word as the INSPIRED word of God and being true to understanding God as He has revealed Himself to us?
If Eve was perfect (i.e. not imperfect), how could she lack anything?
One does not need a dictionary to realize that anything that is perfect lacks nothing. If she were perfect, HD, she would be God.
However, if she lacked knowledge and wisdom then she is not perfect, is she? The truth is, Eve was simply human. If Adam and Ever were created perfect, they would not need God. It is not that God made made imperfectly, for God does not make anything imperfectly. He made man in such a way that he is fully human only when he is cleaved to God, but not by wisdom or special knowledge (gnostic error). The knowledge of God is not hidden, but revealed.
Even eve told the serpent that God said they must not eat of the tree. So, she knew God, she knew what God commanded Adam; therefore claiming lack of knowledge or wisdom on her part is meaningless. She lacked faith (and so did Adam) and obedience that comes from faith. And, that is something we all can relate to.
God did not deceive anyone. God simply ask who could deceive Ahab...
Your reasoning fascinates me! So, if I hire someone to do a "dirty job" for me I am not responsible? If everything happens on God's "watch" then everything is ultimately His responsibility, including deceit, whether it is direct or indirect.
What really amazes me, further, is that you give a demon credit for making a free choice to do the job of deceiving, yet when it comes to humans you say we do only what God wants us to do. Did, then, God make the evil spirit deceive Ahab, or did the evil spirit make that choice too happily on his own?
If it is all God's doing (i.e. if the demon was compelled by God) to do the deception, then it was not the demon who did it but God through the demon; the demon here being a passive conduit of God's will.
But that's not what you are actually saying. You are saying that God did not deceive anyone, but simply asked who would. From a moral point of view that is one and the same.
You will NEVER be able to reconcile the God of the Old Testament against the New Testament under your "God loves us and has a wonderful plan for our lives" soteriology
Perhaps, but the fact remains the two Testaments are very different and very unlike. The Church interprets the OT through the prism of the NT teaching, and specifically the references made to the OT in the Gospels and Epistles. That is because, like it or not, it is the New Testament that defines Christianity; the Old testament leads and hints at it.