The only way we can understand God's grace is to understand God's wrath. There are vessels of wrath created for their destruction:
Rom 9:22 What if God, although willing to demonstrate His wrath and to make His power known, endured with much patience vessels of wrath prepared for destruction?
That's odd, coming from a Calvinist.
Nonetheless, your quotes are appreciated, but luckily the Church never took isolated quotes and stopped, but kept on reading. God's message must be understood in its entirety, as contained in the Church Tradition, and not in isolated quotes.
God's wrath upon the unrighteous...
Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; Romans 1:24-28
What is interesting is that God reproves those whom He loves, and allows those who have turned from Him to continue in their ways of self-destruction. Thus, men DO choose the vomit - and God allows them to destroy themselves. That is His wrath. His love is to punish us as a father does His son.
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