But I think the leadership doesn't realize that this stuff is cumulative, and "bishop" Vicki's rudeness, self-centeredness, and exaltation of homosexuality above all else is just the falling rock that keyed the avalanche . . .
You're right. And I believe the stats show that religions which are holding the line against tolerating sin are the ones gaining members while the mainline so-called liberal churches are sinking. Churches are meant to be more than social clubs; they are to challenge us to rise to our eternal potential and to do so isn't supposed to be a walk in the park.
Nevertheless, should your current church show signs of crumbling around the edges, I've a feeling members like you will be right there to set them straight. Best of luck.