The "orientation" itself is a sin, in the same way that lust and coveting are sins. In this case it may also be a mental/emotional disorder, but it's still a sin. At least address the disorder first. And the LAST thing that should happen to men with this disorder is that they live with a bunch of other homosexuals their whole lives. You don't see the church setting up house for heterosexual priests and hetersexual nuns and just telling them to be celibate. (Not that you can even compare natural sexuality with the unnatural type.) If they are attracted to men, wouldn't they be better off living in the women's quarters with lesbian nuns? One gay priest to one lesbian nun. At least that would make more sense.
I do think it might be good for men who bear this particular cross to seek the friendship of godly women. I don't know whether it's true or not that St. Charles de Foucauld had a difficulty in this area, but I know he chose to be a kind of groundkeeper/handyman for a convent of nuns for a couple of years, before he decided to be a hermit.