Great advice. Thanks. The interesting thing is that I pretty much decided I was Catholic two weeks ago, and have been feeling great since. She sees it, that's for sure.
My husband, Ventana, converted after about 15 years of marriage. At first, religion wasn't a big topic of discussion. Then, with kids, it was. Sometimes there were arguments. Finally, I just went on my own to church and gradually the little ones asked, "Daddy, aren't you going?"
So, eventually he began going with us and again, we got into some theological doozies but it was actually good because it challenged me to become MUCH more knowledgeable about my faith: I learned a lot and now teach a Religious Ed class.
I think, objectively speaking, that is was actually going to mass, hearing the gospel and scripture passages; listening to the homilies and observing the Eucharistic sacrifice of the mass was what was in and of itself a catechetizing experience for him.
Ultimately my son challenged him on a point of doctrine which my husband finally did agree with, I can't even remember what it was now, and once that happened it was like the veil fell away and he saw the Church as the one he wanted to be in and could accept. So in a way, the church works its way into your heart, I think, but also into your head. It does take time. I bet your wife will at the very least grow to respect and admire it greatly. God bless! V's wife