"its better to still have people led to the Lord under a woman's tutelage rather than send them to hell."
"Likewise, one could say it's better to still have people led to the Lord under a sodomite's tutelage rather than send them to hell.
Right?"
Gosh, one could almost take this line of argument to say "It's better to still have people led to the Lord under a Pope's tutelage than a woman's or a sodomite's, rather than send them to Hell."
But that's going too far, isn't it...
If your point is to say that none of the three satisfies the Scriptural basis for church leadership, you're absolutely right.