xzins: "So far as loving those in hell is concerned, I think it is possible to condemn a loved child to the death penalty or to life imprisonment and still love the child."
The love for a child you refer to above is not, in my opinion, analogous to God's potential love for those eternally damned. The parent may have hope that this action will have a good outcome in the child prior to their final death. God knows full well the punishment for the damned is eternal.
I have trouble understanding that God can love someone from whom he has been eternally separated. For one, these condemned sinners are no longer enjoying the common grace of God. And God's love is not some emotional, experiential love - God's love is always active (acted upon). You seem to believe that God can have some hippocritical love that exits without a true relationship of care, comfort, and blessing?? How do you define love? I cannot see any twisting of God's love which could include those burning eternally in hell.
If you don't believe that God can love even those He must condemn, then your God's heart is too small. Me, I think God can surpass me in all things, including loving His enemies.
I have a different (broader?) understanding of "God is Love" than most others who agree with me on other things.
There is nothing He can do that cannot be related to His nature of love.