[xzins]

You probably wouldn't want to come to this marriage counselor.

I do believe in separation as one step in a progression that hopefully ends in restoration. BUT, if it doesn't end in restoration, then I consider it to be abandonment by an unbeliever.

[milquetoastdog]

What if the husband is a believer? Believers do sin. And if you take the stance that he could not be a believer because of sin, then she probably isn't either, right? If it is a marriage problem between 2 unbelievers, then I have no opinion. It is hard to look at a problem like that knowing that neither would listen to scripture. Also, could someone give me the scripture verse offhand about abandonment being an "allowed" divorce reason. I recall the one about adultery but not abandonment.

[milquetoastdog]

Are you a pastor marriage counselor or a licensed public marriage counselor? Just curious from which direction you are coming.