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in my own 17 year marriage, I discovered that I was the leader. I lead by submitting to Christ to treat my wife as Christ treated the church. I give up my rite to be: angry with her, use terse comments, demean her in any way, be served by her. I seek my gratification from Jesus. He then allows me to rejoice in my wife. It has changed every thing about my marriage. She now seeks me out, because I am safe to approach. She now is affectionate, because I respect her and let her lead sexually.

Is this easy? NO. Is this more rewarding than my way? YES. Is this a 50-50 marriage? No it is a 100% marriage. It is my job. If she gives to me in anyway, it is a wonderful gift from God. If she does not give to me. It is my job. Can everyone do this? I don't know.

Thank you for your testimony.

In my marriage of almost twenty years, I have learned that a proper understanding of the biblical male/female roles has been a tremendous help. If a woman encourages a man to be a man of God, Sarah called Abraham, Lord, and a man loves a woman as though she were a part of him, as Eve was taken from Adam's side, it is as God intended marriage to be.