Not exactly "blame"... it's just, that the Evangelicals are out there in the world fishing for lost souls (like me) and the Catholics are invisible. NOW they want me to come back to the RC church, after the Evangelicals did the hard work of saving me, healing me, and teaching me Biblical living.
To be fair, I am honestly considering their arguments -- which are stronger that I had previously realized, actually -- but at some point theologizing has to give way to "by their fruits shall ye know them".
"Catholics are invisible"
With all due respect, I find this to be false. The Catholic Church is the LARGEST charity organization in the world. You probably don't see Catholic missions very much unless you happen to live in a third world country. They are all over the place in Africa, South America, Asia, etc. I can't answer to your experience, but they are also fairly active in the US in particular areas, such as anti-abortion and Hispanic rights activities. I suppose it depends where you live and what particular ministry you are talking about.
Regards