Yikes! You describe the cult leadership that is encouraged in the "Transitioning" which immediately follows "Purpose Driven" training. Pastors start "taking control" and try to dictate who the young people should date, sometimes even who should be married to whom -- even if they are already married to others.
I know because I have a relative that fell into this.
Well, actually it hadn't overtly gotten to that place in this church we finally (hopefully) left. At least, now my husband has heard a few other preachers since leaving there and even if he did "visit" there again - I doubt he will see it exactly as much through rose-colored glasses as he was seeing it. - That preacher and his wife have been at that church for at least 15 years, and I definitely think CONTROL was their big issue.