<....Marys says "they have no wine"....Jesus says "it is not my time."
Mary says "do as he says.">
I too will use short portions of scripture: "Woman, what have I to do with thee? mine hour is not yet come."
That was the deity side of Jesus letting this blessed woman know who's boss. Yet he honored the request. If I ever addressed my mother as "woman", at the least, I'd get a little sermon on respect (she's a strong 75).
Jesus, the man, died on the cross. That's what Mary gave birth to. Deity does not die. The man Jesus cried "My God, my God why hast thou forsaken me" when he felt that Father in him, "doing the works"(John 14:10) depart so he would indeed die. If the Spirit of God had stayed in him, he would never have died. Just like the loaves and fishes, an endless supply of blood could have kept him alive. (Hmmm, I feel a sermon coming on...)
To the disciple, He said, Behold your Mother - Pope John Paul II
The universal motherhood of Mary, the "Woman" of the wedding at Cana and of Calvary, recalls Eve, "mother of all living" (Gn 3:20). However, while the latter helped to bring sin into the world, the new Eve, Mary, co-operates in the saving event of Redemption. Thus in the Blessed Virgin the figure of "woman" is rehabilitated and her motherhood takes up the task of spreading the new life in Christ among men.