Thanks for your detailed comments.
1&2: Could you provide some specific examples?
At my indult parish the "Vetus Ordo" is celebrated weekly. The NO in English is celebrated on weekdays. On Sundays the NO is celebrated also, but with a difference: The Kyrie, Gloria, Sanctus, Pater Noster, and Agnus Dei are all untranslated, as is the Eucharistic Prayer. Both priest and people face liturgical East. There is no kiss o' peace. The people kneel from the Sanctus through Communion -- on kneelers, of course. Communion is distributed at the rail, to kneeling communicants (who usually receive on the tongue), by ordained ministers or else men selected from a small team of extraordinary ministers. Apart from rare invitations to religious sisters to deliver post-communion charitable appeals (never from the pulpit, which we have and use), no women enter the sanctuary during Mass, nuch less act as ministers of Holy Communion. Given these circumstances -- not a hypothetical, but the current and regular practice -- where would you find fault?
Romulus, you are a lucky man. WHERE is this parish?
Regards,