You are the one who defines your church by the law and not by Grace. From a Christian perspective, that is not so.
Jesus Christ himself knew that the rabbi's didn't get it right! It's one of the pivotal conflicts of the gospels.
Mat 15:6 And honour not his father or his mother, [he shall be free]. Thus have ye made the commandment of God of none effect by your tradition.
Mat 15:7 [Ye] hypocrites, well did Esaias prophesy of you, saying,
Mat 15:8 This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with [their] lips; but their heart is far from me.
Mat 15:9 But in vain they do worship me, teaching [for] doctrines the commandments of men.
It almost seems like now you're just arguing to be contrary.