[MontanaBeth]

The female heart often cries out, “But he is sinful. He cannot represent God. And, besides, I am equal to him.” On two out of three she is right. Woman is completely equal to the man in her humanity and in her sinfulness. But, she is wrong to think that a sinful man, equal to her, cannot represent God. God has fashioned men to represent God’s part in the divine-human romance in ways that He did not fashion woman. God designed her to epitomize the believer, the responder, the fruit-bearer, companion, and glorifier.

Can someone explain this to me, I have read it several times and feel as if I'm missing something.

[gobucks]

I see, I think, what you would like explained. However, before I even begin, I need to be sure. So, I'll reword what I think you are asking:

"Why should a wife submit to her husband if his leadership skills - spiritual, economic, social, etc - are lacking to such an extent that it is obvious he has not earned that submission."

Is this a fair representation of what you're asking?