There's two goals you want to balance. You don't want to damage your children, and they take precedence. But if you can, it would be better to not alienate your brother. Suprisingly often, it is the loving Christian sibling or friend that helps bring back someone like your brother.
If it were just your 18-year-old, I'd say go. He sounds like he's strong enough to stand with you. But the younger ones are the wild-cards.
"There's two goals you want to balance. You don't want to damage your children, and they take precedence. But if you can, it would be better to not alienate your brother. Suprisingly often, it is the loving Christian sibling or friend that helps bring back someone like your brother.
"If it were just your 18-year-old, I'd say go. He sounds like he's strong enough to stand with you. But the younger ones are the wild-cards."
First, I also have a daughter who is twelve and twins that are eight -and they all have a fairly solid grounding in Christianity. However, what they don't have is a fairly solid grounding in the ways of the world. Interestingly, it is particularly my twelve year old daughter I am worried about. She is very innocent and we have kept her fairly sheltered. In some ways, I fear it would crush her if she knew what was going on with her uncle.
Also, try to understand it is not her brother who is now making a big deal of this -at least according to her mother and father. Rather, it is her mom and dad, (and, I suspect, particularly her mother) who is pushing the issue. And, frankly, I don't know why?